I Know Everything About Love....Seriously. I should write a book.
1. Infatuation
2. Disillusionment
3. Actual Love
There it is. I have unlocked the key to finding love. Done. What's next?
What? You want me to explain it? Well.....alright.
Step #1 - Infatuation
You cannot stop thinking about that person. They are always on your mind. You post things on Facebook like "can't stop thinking about HER," "so happy with HIM." (You know...that stuff that the older people on Facebook laugh about and secretly share with others.)
You are at work or school and you keep pulling up pictures of that person on your phone or computer. You dream about the future with them. You feel as if you are completed. You can't believe that you found that person. You know, for certain, that God has brought them to you. You don't know how you lived before you met them. For a moment every once in a while you think about how devastating it would have been if you had never met them. Then a few days pass and you hit...
Step #2 - Disillusionment
She or he has not turned out to be who you thought they were. They have some fatal flaw that you have found.
"Um, did he change his jeans yet? It's been like 3 days and that ketchup stain is still there."
"Wow, she talks to her mom a lot. I mean a lot. I am pretty sure that's the 5th text exchange since the food arrived to the table."
Or it's worse. You find actual problems. Right after you get married she finds out that she has a disease. He lost his job because of his temper. You can't seem to get pregnant. She won't open up to me. He seems to be gone a lot.
Step #3 - Actual Love
You may never reach this. It's much easier to quit before you get to this point. It may take quite a while. It doesn't feel as "cute" as step #1. And making it even harder, most people in step #1 think they are in step #3.
However, there is no way to get to step #3 without going through step #2.
Most people quit and start over at step #1 with someone else. That's a shame, step #3 is great and it's pretty hard to explain. As a matter of fact you can't even understand step #3 until you have passed through step #2.
2. Disillusionment
3. Actual Love
There it is. I have unlocked the key to finding love. Done. What's next?
What? You want me to explain it? Well.....alright.
Step #1 - Infatuation
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| That was the infatuation stage about 11.5 years ago. |
You are at work or school and you keep pulling up pictures of that person on your phone or computer. You dream about the future with them. You feel as if you are completed. You can't believe that you found that person. You know, for certain, that God has brought them to you. You don't know how you lived before you met them. For a moment every once in a while you think about how devastating it would have been if you had never met them. Then a few days pass and you hit...
Step #2 - Disillusionment
She or he has not turned out to be who you thought they were. They have some fatal flaw that you have found.
"Um, did he change his jeans yet? It's been like 3 days and that ketchup stain is still there."
"Wow, she talks to her mom a lot. I mean a lot. I am pretty sure that's the 5th text exchange since the food arrived to the table."
Or it's worse. You find actual problems. Right after you get married she finds out that she has a disease. He lost his job because of his temper. You can't seem to get pregnant. She won't open up to me. He seems to be gone a lot.
Step #3 - Actual Love
You may never reach this. It's much easier to quit before you get to this point. It may take quite a while. It doesn't feel as "cute" as step #1. And making it even harder, most people in step #1 think they are in step #3.
However, there is no way to get to step #3 without going through step #2.
Most people quit and start over at step #1 with someone else. That's a shame, step #3 is great and it's pretty hard to explain. As a matter of fact you can't even understand step #3 until you have passed through step #2.
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