Parenting, responsibility, and blame
Can you judge a parent by the behavior of their child? I'm assuming you will say "yes." Can I judge you by the behavior of your child? I'm assuming that on some days you will say "yes" and on some days you will say "no." I'm assuming that, because I have four kids and I can see the looks and hear the whispers. Their are days when I want people to judge me based on my kids behaviors. Then there are days when I don't want people to judge me based on the behavior of my children. But most days, I could care less what anyone else thinks about the behavior of my kids or of my ever-changing parenting style. Maybe there's a better question... Why do you need to judge my parenting or the behavior of my child? Let me make another assumption here. If you judge parents and the behavior of their children you feel insecure in your own children and the rightness/wrongness or strength/weakness of your own parenting decisions and actions.